Relationship can be quite confusing.Sometimes we stay in a relationship we know we are not happy or satisfying for us.Other times,we may walk away from a relationship we know to be a good thing,but self-sabotaging behavior causes us to leave it all.We dont always know however,if a relationship is right or wrong.We may simply feel confused and in great need to sort through the confusion for some answers.This is what happened to dene.....
Dene is 32 yr old,had been married with Ralf for 6 years now but Dene is still overwhelmed with confused feelings.She could'nt even put her finger on what specifically she was so confused about.She started asking her self if she really like Ralf.Theres a saying we can love someone and not really like him.She get a peace of paper and divided it into two.Started writing and answering the questions (what i like about him and what he wants in life?)and on the other half she answered the question(what i dont like about him and what i want in life?)
When Dene finished the first sheet,she was stunned.She was sure her answers are real and honest and they told her plenty.She discovered that there were more things about Ralf she did'nt like than what she did like.In fact she sudden realized she found somethings about him to be quite irritating and incompatible with her own way of thinking and being.
I guess her subconcious mind was making these comparisons,telling her something's was'nt right. She had to get into her own and find out what her real feelings were.She thought they were compatible but i guess it was just Dene making compromises to keep the relationship together.
Faced with marriage as a real possibility,her inner feelings begun to make her self known.This is how she became confused.
Dene still love Ralf, but when she realized that it was dissatisfied about certain aspects of their relationship,she thinks that getting married was'nt the right thing to do. Do you agree with her?Now that they have two kids,do you think Dene have to let go Ralf or stay with the relationship where in she knows she can never be happy???????